Size from your water, not the box. Grains a day = people × 75 gallons × hardness in grains per gallon, adding about 4 gpg for each ppm of iron. Multiply by about 7 days between regenerations. Grain ratings are full-salt figures; at an efficient salt setting a tank gives about three quarters of its rating, so pick a unit rated about a third higher than your weekly load. Our sizing calculator does this and lists the units that keep up.
Weekly load by household and hardness
| People | 10 gpg | 15 gpg | 20 gpg | 25 gpg |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| 2 | 10,500 | 15,750 | 21,000 | 26,250 |
| 3 | 15,750 | 23,625 | 31,500 | 39,375 |
| 4 | 21,000 | 31,500 | 42,000 | 52,500 |
| 5 | 26,250 | 39,375 | 52,500 | 65,625 |
From weekly load to grain rating
Divide the weekly load by 0.75 for the rating to look for. Four people on 15 gpg water need about 31,500 grains a week, so a unit rated about 42,000 grains or more. The Aquasure Harmony 48,000 and AFWFilters Fleck 5600SXT 48,000 sit there; a family of five on 20 gpg water needs about 70,000, the territory of the Aquasure Harmony WS-EM-64 and up.
Penn State Extension's worked example uses the same arithmetic: 75 gallons a person, 10 gpg, four people, 3,000 grains a day, so a 20,000-grain unit regenerates about every six to seven days.
Don't forget flow
Capacity covers how much water; service flow covers how fast. A unit whose stated service flow is below your peak use drops pressure when showers and appliances run together. More bathrooms usually means a higher peak; compare each unit's stated flow with yours.
Iron changes the size
Each ppm of ferrous iron takes up resin capacity like about 4 gpg of hardness, so 15 gpg water with 2 ppm of iron sizes like 23 gpg. Most softeners handle up to about 2 ppm; above about 5 ppm, or with red water, put an iron filter ahead of the softener.
Products mentioned

Aquasure Harmony Series AS-HS48D 48,000-Grain Water Softener
48,000 grains · 12 GPM

AFWFilters Fleck 5600SXT 48,000-Grain Water Softener
48,000 grains · Fleck 5600sxt

Aquasure Harmony Series WS-EM-64 64,000-Grain Water Softener
64,000 grains · 13.3 GPM